Do you feel lucky? Well, do ya? St. Patty’s was just a bit ago, so naturally luck is in the air…and hopefully in the bedroom. Now, we’re not saying you shouldn’t be looking for that pot of gold with your partner every chance you get, but if you’re hoping to rekindle the spark and bring that mattress magic back, the luckiest month of the year is a good time to start! Whether you and your partner are trying to get your groove back after kids or a dry spell, we’ve got some pretty creative ways to turn your honey pot into a pot of gold at the end of a rainbow.
1. Reach out and touch someone
Physical touch is like a gateway drug when it comes to stoking the fires with your partner. We’re not even talking about overtly sexual touching, although you shouldn’t underestimate the power of an ‘accidental’ crotch or boob brush. Even something as simple as holding hands or standing close enough for your sides to touch lightly while you’re making dinner can be enough to get those juices flowing again.
2. Talk it out
Communication is key in any relationship, but ESPECIALLY when you’re trying to reconnect and build intimacy with your partner. Bonus points for dirty talk, but that’s not even necessary! Even taking 20-30 minutes a day to just shoot the shit with your partner is an excellent way to get back in sync with one another and make each other a priority. And maybe when you’re filling each other in about your days, you casually slip in some sexy talk to keep things interesting. IDK, just a thought.
3. Laugh It Up
Laughter really is the best medicine for so much that ails you, including a dry spell with your boo. Being silly and getting the giggles with your partner can help relax you, ease a tense situation and make you feel more connected. Watch a comedy special together, or adopt a ‘Joke of the Day’ routine where you each share one funny (maybe dirty?) joke you heard or found that day. When you help them crack a smile, you just upped your chances of them cracking your back in bed, and we love that for you. Pro-tip: laughter is for foreplay, not for the big game. Nothing kills the mood like a fit of giggles when your ankles are behind your ears.
4. Experience firsts together
Presumably, if you’ve been with your partner for a while, there’s at least one first you can’t experience together. But that doesn’t mean you can’t find other new and exciting ways to bond with your partner, either in the bedroom or out. Trying a new activity, cooking and sampling a new cuisine, driving a little farther out of town on date night to be strangers in a new town – these are all great ways to build intimacy in your relationship. Or take the experiments to the bedroom and try something new there; chances are you each have a fantasy or a kink you’d like to explore at least once, and as long as you have the enthusiastic consent of your partner, trying it together can be hot.
5. Find (or make) the time
The easiest, most surefire way to get your groove back with your partner? Making sure you both prioritize your relationship and do what you have to do to find time to spend together. JUST the two of you. Alone. No kids, no family, no friends – even the dog needs to GTFO for a bit. In the hustle and bustle of life, it’s so easy to shift yourselves and your relationship further and further down on your list of priorities. But how can you connect with your partner in the bedroom if you can’t even connect with them outside of it? Find the time. If you can’t find it, make it. Your blown out back will thank you.