THIS IS NORMAL

08-04-2019

Meghan Tanty

Tell us a little bit about yourself.

I am a full-time working mom to an 11-month-old baby girl named Isla.  My family lives in Carroll Gardens, Brooklyn and both my husband and I work in Manhattan.  I am head-over-heels in love with my baby girl and while it has been challenging at times, it has been such an amazing experience being a parent!

What 3 words best describe your parenting experience to date?

Exhausting, fulfilling, adventurous

What’s one of the hardest or most surprising things about being a parent that people wouldn’t expect or don’t usually talk about?

How suddenly difficult it is to connect with your non-parent friends and how much stronger your attachment is to friends with kids. I also had this immediate guilt for how I acted towards my friends with kids before I had them myself, like rolling my eyes when my friends wouldn’t budge on making plans during nap time, getting annoyed when they would suddenly have to cancel plans, and overall just not offering to help them out more.  I honestly just had no clue how hard this whole parenting thing is!! 

What were some of your “wait...is this normal??” moments once you became a parent?

Haha, there were quite a few poopy diapers that had us wondering if they were normal (luckily they always were).  Our daughter also had a very terrifying “startle/falling” reflex when she was really little that caused us all to get emotional.  We dreaded changing her as it would often happen as we laid her down on the changing table.  As with most things though, she grew out of it quickly.  Then, she had a phase of headbanging us which we worried could not be normal. Yet again, our doctor assured us it was quite normal.  The latest is her screaming/screeching at the tops of her lungs to get our attention. This one is tons of fun for all involved… (insert eye-roll emoji here).  Can’t wait for this “normal” to pass, lol!  

What’s one of your favorite parenting hacks that helps keep you sane (that other parents should know about and start doing ASAP)?

ZIPPERS INSTEAD OF SNAP/BUTTON SLEEPERS AT ALL COST!!! Its not really a hack, but it will definitely keep new parents sane.  We had all of these adorable onesie sleepers with a ton of snaps that were driving us nuts at 3am when we were half asleep and trying to put back on our daughter after changing her.  She would be screaming crying which would then panic us even more and cause us to fumble with the snaps. The simple switch to a quick zipper kept everyone calm and back to sleep without a fuss.  Our other “hack” is of course…Little Spoon!  As two full-time working parents, we just did not have the time to be puréeing our daughter’s food, but we didn’t want to sacrifice her nutrition either.  We wanted to make sure she was still getting plenty of FRESH fruits and veggies so when a friend recommended Little Spoon, it was the perfect solution!