THIS IS NORMAL
Tell us a little bit about yourself.
New Yorker, Founder of The Black Bib, fashion editor by day and Mommy all around the clock!
What 3 words best describe your parenting experience to date?
Instinct, coordination, Google
What’s one of the hardest or most surprising things about being a parent that people wouldn’t expect or don’t usually talk about?
I think the worrying is the hardest part. But it’s not just about worrying about the big stuff, it’s about ALL the stuff. I expected to be a parent that would be nervous about my kid breaking an arm or something but never expected the worry to extend to if she has enough age appropriate toys to play with, does she like her babysitters, am I feeding her the right food, does she even like me or is this a one sided obsession, does she get mad when I leave for work, is she getting enough sleep…. the worry list goes on forever and it’s actually the dumbest stuff! And yet, I still get worked up about it!
What were some of your “wait...is this normal??” moments once you became a parent?
I never imagined and I’ve literally never in my life talked so much about poop. Like it’s all we talk about! Is it normal for her to go this many times, is it normal for it to be like this, is it normal she hasn’t gone in a week, is it normal she now has this weird rash on her butt, is it normal that she can drink a cup of prune juice and still not poop? It’s like insane how much I google and talk about the normalcy of my kid’s poop. And I have to say… it’s not because I’m weirdly obsessed but because since she was born she’s never had what I thought was “normal” bathroom habits. No matter how many times doctors tell me each phase is very age appropriate, we somehow move into a new version of each phase. I just never want her to be in pain so therefore the poop googling is usually at the top of my weird worry list.
What’s one of your favorite parenting hacks that helps keep you sane (that other parents should know about and start doing ASAP)?
My favorite hack is babysitter pre-scheduling. What I try to do is break down the year by each season. A little before the new season starts I schedule and line up my babysitters for every single Saturday night. I usually will schedule a rotation of 2-3 girls. It’s especially important for holiday season with so much always going on!
Once confirmed, I mark my calendar with a reminder to text them the week before to confirm. It’s been such a great thing for me because I never have to scramble for a sitter, and if the weekend comes and I don’t have big plans, it forces me to get out of the house with my husband, my friends, whatever and have an adult life. It’s my best advice I give all new parents!