THIS IS NORMAL

08-04-2019

Deshi Singh

Tell us a little bit about yourself.

I am a mother to two incredible, energetic and funny little boys (Kush, 3 years and Jaan 1 year), a wife, sister, daughter, entrepreneur and women’s rights advocate.  I helped co-found GemX, a jewelry social club based in NYC born out of a desire to transform jewelry into a social experience for a new generation of enthusiasts.  I devote time and energy into supporting women and children’s rights issues across the globe through an organization called the Lotus Circle.  I invest in new and exciting business opportunities.  I am an avid reader.  And, I am extremely passionate about natural/organic living, mindful eating and exposing children to a wide variety of foods and flavors from an early age.

What 3 words best describe your parenting experience to date?

Rewarding
Humbling
Inspiring

What’s one of the hardest or most surprising things about being a parent that people wouldn’t expect or don’t usually talk about?

It is to actively connect and maintain a healthy relationship with your partner and support system or community.  Parenthood is emotional, draining, wonderful, exhausting, and everything in-between and beyond.  We all have busy lives. Work is demanding, children are demanding, and maintaining healthy adult relationships is especially demanding.

What were some of your “wait...is this normal??” moments once you became a parent? [feel free to really "go there" with this one ;-)]

My daily news report now includes poop and throw up. 

I am in a constant state of flux, and that’s okay.

Preferring to stay home and sleep with my kids.

What’s one of your favorite parenting hacks that helps keep you sane (that other parents should know about and start doing ASAP)?

Use positive reinforcement and leave the negative behind! 

I encourage good behavior by constantly giving positive feedback on things they’re doing well or right.  For example, when my children use kind language to ask for something, I typically say, “I really love the way you said please in a kind voice to ask for that toy.”  I’ve found the trick is to catch my children being good as opposed to focusing on the negative!