THIS IS NORMAL

08-04-2019

Allie Rapaport

Tell us a little bit about yourself.

I am the CEO of Every Mother. Every Mother streams research-based exercise programming to meet the needs of modern mothers, and is the only program clinically proven to resolve diastasis recti. I met the founder while training during the pregnancy of my now almost 5 year old, and we joined up and launched Every Mother during my youngest daughter’s earliest days. I am originally from Boston where I met my husband, who followed me to NYC shortly afterward. 🙂 I live in Williamsburg with my husband, two daughters and our dog. I love seeing the world through the eyes of my kids – everything is so much more interesting.

What 3 words best describe your parenting experience to date?

Joy, Surprise, Strength

What’s one of the hardest or most surprising things about being a parent that people wouldn’t expect or don’t usually talk about?

How different it feels from the inside versus how it looks on the outside. Like, no matter what you see, you can’t imagine how it feels. Life is just so different, and it is like you are in this new reality while the old world keeps chugging along.

What were some of your “wait...is this normal??” moments once you became a parent?

One major issue was I didn’t know who to ask about what was normal so assumed some things when they weren’t. Like, when I couldn’t sit for the first 5 weeks and used my Bobby as a cushion for my bottom, I assumed that is what having a baby was like. Turns out at my 6 week check-up, I had a horrible infection because my stitches hadn’t absorbed.

About a week after the baby was born, I passed a clot the size of a Lacrosse ball and was horrified. Called the doc – turns out, normal. Breastfeeding felt like such an intense, stabbing muscle pain and lactation consultants told me it was all good. Found out with my second it was a tongue tie issue. My first had had a procedure but apparently they didn’t get it all and now it affects her speech and caused me pain for a year that no one seemed to think was “abnormal”.

What’s one of your favorite parenting hacks that helps keep you sane (that other parents should know about and start doing ASAP)?

Scavenger hunts are my best advice when you are alone with one or more kids and need an activity. Older ones can hide things and young and old can help find. It is fun and a good activity to keep us all busy, happy and excited and can be done anywhere in a variety of ways.